How to Power-up Your Integrity (and Why it is Important)

 

Integrity.

Do you have it?

Do you know what it is?

How important is it?

What Does Integrity Mean?

Billy was wise beyond his years, but I thought I had him stumped, “What is integrity?” I asked him.

He looked down for a moment and then stared directly into my eyes.

“Integrity is when what you say, and what you do are in alignment.” He nodded, with a small amount of satisfaction and left me alone with my thoughts.

According to Wikipedia integrity is, “a concept of consistency of action, values, methods, measures, principles, expectations and outcomes.

It comes from the Latin word, integer, meaning whole or complete.

Undivided, uncorrupted, intact.

“When you are ‘whole’ and consistent, there is only one you. You bring that same you wherever you are, regardless of the circumstance. You don’t leave parts of yourself behind. You don’t have a ‘work you,’ a ‘family you,’ and a ‘social you.’ You are YOU all the time.”

– So-Young Kang

Does Integrity Mean You Have a Backbone?

To me the most important aspect of integrity is honesty. There is no way that your actions and your words can be in alignment if you are not being honest. First you need to be honest with yourself. And then be true to what is honestly the best that is in you.

Clarity can not be overlooked. Essential to building your integrity through your honesty is being very clear about what you believe. What you love, what you dislike. Who you want to be. Who you don’t want to be. What you are willing to stand for when no one else is looking.

Another aspect that plays a huge role is consistency.

Promises can be made and broken easily. Someone who keeps their promises every now and then can not be said to have integrity.

Consistently, intentionally, and without deviation, regardless of the circumstances, cultivates integrity. It is a connection, made consciously by you, between doing the right thing, for the right reason, at the right time.

The Importance of Personal Integrity

You must first have the self-awareness to be able to identify what your core values are. This takes a certain degree of knowledge about yourself. You need to know where you stand, in order to walk the line. You need to care about things enough to pick a side.

Once you know what you stand for and what you believe in, it is time to apply your integrity.

By no uncertain terms, the quality of your character, the caliber of a person you are, is determined by this. By how well you live up to the values you have chosen to be important.

Enrique Fiallo put it best, when he said, “There are many things you can lack and still steer clear of danger. Integrity isn’t one of them. Establish a set of sound ethics and policies…and make clear that you will not tolerate any deviation from any of them. Then live by them.”

6 Attributes of a Person With Integrity

  1. Trustworthiness – Trust is valuable to these people. They earn it and work to keep it.
  2. Honesty – They know themselves so well and they do not hide it. Lying will not only remove them from their chosen path, but the cognitive dissonance that it creates is intolerable to them.
  3. Authenticity – By never needing to hide their true nature they are always their true selves. Undivided, uncorrupted, and whole.
  4. Humble/Respectful – They do not require praise. That is not why they do what they do. And they are always aware of the intentions and feelings of others.
  5. Accountable/Responsible – They mean what they say and say what they mean. If they say they will be there they will be there. If they say they will do something they can be counted on to do it.
  6. Consistent – Day in and day out they strive to live up to the expectations and values that they have given themselves. Unwavering and undaunted.

How Can You Cultivate Your Own Integrity?

The AscensionGlossary.com came up with a nice check list for those who wish to have more integrity. I put it here for you to take a look at.

  • Identify the behavioral traits that need to be addressed and are required to change.
  • Determine the underlying reasons why you have not behaved with greater personal integrity.
  • Observe the obstacles and other people that are used as excuses to lie or violate your personal values or moral code.
  • Commit to build authentic relationships through greater truthfulness, honesty and being open and direct.
  • Compile a list of tasks and behaviors in which you dedicate to become more trustworthy and honest.
  • Protect your basic human rights to be authentic and protect the
    rights of others, by respecting the decisions and opinions of other
    people.
  • When possible, be of service to others and live as an example for embodying truthfulness and integrity.
  • Be willing to honestly self-assess progress on your commitment to personal integrity, making adjustments along the way.
  • Look for the support of others who are inspiring examples of
    personal integrity, and have similar goals and personal values to be
    honest and trustworthy.
  • Develop Accountability
    for personal behaviors and actions, and if you make a mistake that
    impacts others or you break a promise, be willing to admit it and
    apologize.

Hopefully you find that you are a person of great integrity. But none of us are perfect. I strive to do these things every day and sometimes I fall short. But I am consistent in my effort. And you can be too. If you wish to build up your own integrity now you have more information to do so. The path is a little clearer now I hope.

8 thoughts on “How to Power-up Your Integrity (and Why it is Important)

  1. Great article! True, true, true!! I chose this article of the ones listed because of its topic. I will stop by again and read the others on another day. Your topics are those of inherent nature and I’m drawn to the true nature of them. Truly appreciated and needed, especially today.

    Thank you!
    Beth

  2. To me, integrity means standing by my words. If I lose integrity, it will lose the effect of what I stand for. I’ve seen many people in my life who try to come off all-wise and stuff but then have no integrity on what they are trying to convey. These people have lost the trust of their loved ones. 

    My family knows I will always abide by my words; nothing can take away what I stand for. 

  3. I like that you can end by stating that none of us are perfect, this is a very tue notion. Integrity is not something that everyone possesses We are all striving to reach the point we want. Truthfully, honesty is the main concept of integrity followed by consistency. I like to think that they even work hand in hand. Very nice to read this, thanks.

  4. I learned a lot about what’s being served here, something very useful. It’s great to be dedicated to this whole life. Integrity has a very thick and deep meaning. Fortunately, I can read it here. It’s hard for words to come true, but it comes with a nice checklist for me to achieve higher integrity. I will definitely come back and explore again to inspire myself. I appreciate it. Thank you so much for writing this great article.

    1. Thanks a lot for your comment. When starting this site I wanted to write about things that I want to see more of in myself and in the world around me. It takes work but I don’t publish anything on here that I’m not willing to do myself. Nobody can get it right all the time but the one’s who don’t give up are the ones this site is for. 

  5. Yes, I totally agree that if you have integrity, you are who you are all of the time. No one has to figure out which you they will be in the presence of.

    I have a co-worker who always makes false statements. This co-worker is known by everyone as a person you can tell is being deceitful because their lips are moving. We never know what the truth is with this co-worker because they seem to be allergic to the truth.  

    I agree whole heartedly with the core values of this post, in fact it reminds me of the core values in the Military which are the same as this post.

    When it comes to being Humble and Respectful, my pastor always tell us, if we are doing something for someone, and it is from our hearts, not for praise, then do not say anything about it to anyone else. If the person you are doing something for wants someone to know, let them be the one to tell it.

    I have really enjoyed this post. Thank you for creating this content. It is true, Integrity is doing the right thing even when no one else is watching.

    Jerry

    1. Jerry,

      I’m glad you liked the post. I’m glad I can display my thoughts about these things on here and know that there are people like yourself who can get something out of it. Thanks for taking the time to read it. And I hope you’ll enjoy future post as well.

  6. If we cannot be hpnest with our selves then how can we be honest with anyone else, integrity starts at a personal level , it is more than just what you stand for when around others but what you stand for when others are not around. When it comes to integrity we also really do need to take accountability for our actions and I think this is what most people lack and that can be developed through the 10 steps you mentioned on how to cultivate your own integrity. Thank you this is really an important subject that helps us become respectable members of the community.

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